Um, is there a handbook?

My parents split their time between two houses in two states, they spend approximately two seasons in each - they follow the sun but avoid the worst of the summer heat and completely forego winters save for the occasional Christmas in Seattle.

Now, Hamid and I are looking at basically the same scenario, but want all four seasons and two countries.
I was born in the States, there is no trying to find myself in that relationship - it is Iran I am mentally grappling with.

My stay in Iran was amazing and wonderful and in some ways very challenging. But because I honestly don't have a grasp on what depth of perspective is appropriate to write about considering the legal issues that can come with publishing such things I didn't always give voice to the entire experience. I may be American, but I am married to an Iranian, I have an Iranian identity card and sometime in the next few months will have a passport - all of the rules apply to me now regardless of where I happen to be writing from.

I find it impossible to imagine anyone admonishing me for exploring the ways in which I interact with Iran, both literally and figuratively, positive or negative. I am simply a person of one culture experiencing another. And yet I'm still holding myself back when it comes to writing about my experiences there - evidenced by the four or so half-written and unpublished posts that have piled up in my blog program since our return. My experience was unique and I find it both frustrating and sad that I'm now standing on some invisible line of self-expression, afraid to cross it. I am stranded by my own ignorance (What are the laws regarding self expression and Iran?). I've got this amazing opportunity to write about my relationship to Iran via internet technology coupled with a very rare perspective but I don't want to cross whatever that line is - I don't want to be misunderstood.

I am connected to Iran for the rest of my life, and this is truly a wonderful relationship for which I am grateful - I guess it's just a matter of figuring out how my voice, trained by 32 years of life experience to be confident and unafraid, fits in with all that.